All posts by Alan Addison

Year of Hell!

Roughly 12 months ago marks the start of the shittyest year of my life! And I’ve had some pretty crap times medically over the years!

12 months ago was the starting point of the process for me getting diagnosed with bladder cancer. For which I still have to go back into hospital every few months, for the next few years for checks to ensure it doesn’t come back. Gillian was in shock when I told her the confirmed diagnosis at the start of the year. She was so worried when the word ‘cancer’ was mentioned. Fortunately, it’s one of the easiest ones to treat and by the time it was confirmed I’d already had an operation to remove what they found.

As the months rolled on in 2020 a close uncle of mine died of cancer. Not long after that, my darling wife and soulmate Gillian was diagnosed with cancer and passed away just a couple of weeks later, at home, in my arms. Things happened so quickly!

For all the medical problems, diagnoses and operations I’ve had in the past. Including removing an internal organ, multiple tumours removed from my spine & ribcage. Some nearly the size of a tennis ball. + more

Why am I still here?.. When what often appears to be better, stronger, healthier people are not! I just have to hold on to the belief that there is some reason for it.

But I tell you, it’s bloody painful! There are some amazingly good times to be had in life. The past 8 years with Gillian have been the best! But one thing life, is not.. and that’s fair!

There have been other personal things going on the last 12 months as well, which I’m not going to talk about here. But please note, not one mention of covid or lockdown in the above! Quite frankly those don’t even scratch the surface of the past 12 months for me!

The purpose of this post is to highlight the fact that although everyone has been shouting about 2020 being the worst year ever due to lockdown restriction. There are families out there who are going though so much more pain and grief and suffering on top of what people are complaining about!

  • Time is precious! make the most of it!
  • Don’t waste hours each day playing on your phone!
  • Go outside and enjoy the world in which we live!
  • Be kind to each other & don’t take anything for granted!
  • Be grateful for everything you have! no matter how much or how little that may be.
  • Focus on your strengths, not what you ‘think’ are flaws and weaknesses!
  • It’s your life, no one else’s, don’t let others control you!
  • Concentrate on the positives and be happy!

Happiness and Love are the two most valuable things we have. Not money or fame. If you disagree, then you’ve never truly known either Happiness or Love. I’ve lost nearly all mine in recent months, so I understand the value of them.

Please, take care and look after yourselves.

P.s. This was one of those awake through the night brain dumps, due to current sleep disruption. Hope it makes sense, I’m fairly sure some of Gillian’s words have made it in there also.


Widowed and Young (WAY)

Just want to put this out there for anyone who has been widowed before the age of 51 or maybe you know someone who has. They may not be aware of the charity Widowed and Young (WAY).

If you know someone who has been widowed at a young age, please pass on the details of the group to them, even privately or discreetly if you have to.

But please let them know the group exists! It doesn’t matter about their background or how they became widowed. Whether it was medically related or an accident, e.t.c. The point is, it’s bringing everyday people who are suffering together, to help them understand the pain they are going through.

It’s still very early days for me but the charity has already been helping me understand why my mind and body are being so erratic just now and will, unfortunately, continue to do so. Simply by reading everyone else’s stories, chatting with other members. It’s helping me understand why I feel the way I do and struggle to do certain basic tasks that were previously 2nd nature to me.

WAY have their own discussion forums, 24/7 helplines and also private Facebook groups where people can safely open up about what they are going through. Lots of private subgroups, more dedicated to certain areas, for example, those with or without children + several more. I simply can’t describe how it feels both mentally and physically to go through something like this. It’s not what you expect to be grief from losing someone. The only way for someone to understand is to have unfortunately gone through a similar loss themselves.

Which is why WAY works so well. It’s members have all gone through the same loss in their life. Every member of WAY understands, they “Get it”!

Privacy is the utmost and none of the stories or discussion topics are public. It is a safe haven to release your frustrations, get your questions answered, and most importantly feel comfortable about how strange and worrying everything feels.

Widowed & Young (WAY)

It’s such a shame with all the lockdown nonsense this year that people aren’t able to meet up in person, so it’s all mostly online just now, but it still helps! The sooner these lockdown restrictions are lifted the better for everyone’s mental wellbeing!

Things feel so unnatural and indescribable, yet somehow that’s normal !?!, and being able to share that with people who truly understand is invaluable. You don’t ever get over it! You just try your best to live with your new life going forward, with your loved one still being a part of you, yet no longer physically by your side.

As I said at the top, if you or you know someone who has been widowed at a young age, please pass on the details of WAY to them. No matter whether their loss was recent or a few years ago. Some members don’t find WAY until a year or more later and they all say they wish they found it sooner on their journey! The support is there by way of real people going through the same horrific change in their life!

Added New Content!

Just added a few new pages to the garage section of the website.

Still need to go through the text and perhaps make them a bit more reader friendly. They were extracted from some forum posts I made years ago about the wee Scooby projects I was working at that time.

Anyhoo some of the more fun / interesting ones:


Been plotting again..Have been wanting to make some kick plates for the XV for ages.

Finally got round to bringing the plotter and leftover vinyl down from the loft.

Ok.. I admit it, it was a hot day and i went up there for a fan. Spotted the plotter in the corner and got carried away.

New Photo Album!

Taken a while but finally decided on a photo album system I’m happy with. Sadly it doesn’t fully integrate with wordpress at the moment but that may be a good thing! Just means the photo album section is free from all the back end code and styling template of wordpress that can slow things down. Making the photo album very responsive.

… more albums to be added once I take time to go through photos of some of the more recent road trips that never made it online.

UK Investing in Hydrogen Production

Now were talking!.. Government investing into hydrogen production!

Now if they can just step away from the fad of all electric cars will solve all our problems and focus on hydrogen/electric hybrids we might be getting somewhere!

I’m not against all electric cars. But right now they seem more of a fashion accessory for people. Great for town and city cars, proven by electric milk floats from decades ago.
. o O (You see! electric cars are in fact old fashioned!)

Dual Fuel Hybrids are the future. I want to see strong investment in hydrogen fuel cell technology, Waste from hydrogen cell? water. Why not recycle that water and use it to keep your washer fluid filled up? or use it as a sophisticated way to keep your car clean from salt by spraying the excess under the car? I’m sure theirs endless uses for the byproduct.

It’s not just cars. Hydrogen has many uses across many industries!

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